That am also not someone who believes that masturbation ends when a relationship begins. Your own private sex life can, and should, continue regardless of whether you are with someone or not. It only becomes a problem if someone is routinely opting for solo time instead of together time, which I doubt happens often except when porn is involved.

I do know people who have encountered this issue, though, where their guy is routinely turning down sex with them because he is too tired from having spent all day jacking it online. This is a true porn addiction, and is not a “healthy” or normal experience. Even when it isn’t pervasive, I admit to being thoroughly incomfortable with the idea of my guy looking at porn because I cannot compete with the bodies of meth-addicts with implants. My attitude is that if you are going to look at me naked, then it has to just be me. I am self-conscious enough about my body without knowing I am compared to people I can’t possibly compete with. It affects my sex life, my desire and comfort, negatively. My feeling is that if it bothers me enough to detract from my sex life with my partner, then my partner should respect that and refrain. I should also note that I am perfectly willing to make my own pics and videos for him, and am very sexually giving.

I don’t know how much is really your opinion and how much is just blog-fodder, but it seems that you may enjoy looking at both men and women for equal sexual gratification. You might not feel the same insecurity as other women feel if you are enjoying the perfect bodies of these porn queens in a way that perhaps we are not. Just food for thought.